Sunday, February 21, 2010

Top 10 ways to "bring sexy back” after having breast cancer

Editor's note: one of the most vexing things about dealing with breast cancer is the impact on your marriage/relationship/dating/love life!
Thank you Hester for these sizzling tips!

  1. Remember that, in or out of bed, it is how you love and whom you are, not how you look, that matters most.
  2. Take the pressure off: agree just to snuggle.
  3. Shower or bathe together.
  4. Experiment with massage oils.
  5. Give and receive back rubs, foot massages, as many hugs as possible.
  6. Consider wearing a lacy camisole if you are self-conscious about your breasts (or lack thereof)
  7. Consider wearing a teddy with a crotch that can be unsnapped.
  8. If vaginal dryness is a problem, try a variety of lubricants to discover what works best for you.
  9. Go away together for an overnight or a weekend.
  10. Watch an x-rated movie, read a steamy novel, fantasize.
Hester Hill Schnipper, LICSW
Chief, Oncology Social WorkAfter Breast Cancer: A Common-Sense Guide to Life After Treatment
Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center, Boston
survivor of two breast cancers

Want to read more from Hester? She has a very valuable and informative blog. She is also the author of "After Breast Cancer" which you can pick up in our Amazon store just a few inches away.


  1. These are excellent tips, Hester. Number one I think is the most important. Thank you for sharing them with us. Congratulations to you on being a survivor. You are an inspiration!

  2. thanks for the comment Kat. I really think this is the sort of information people need but can be too shy to ask for!

  3. I agree with Kathleen. Hester, you've got number one as number one..... which is the top priority. If it worked before, it will work again. Thanks for the candor.

  4. Great, insightful posting, Hester!! You've really shared some great tips for intimacy during and/or after breast cancer treatment.